What do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you see a girl with messy hair, old clothes, and little potential staring back at you? Or do you see a strong, beautiful, confident woman ready to change the world?
If you had asked me this question a few years ago, I would never have admitted to you that what I saw when I looked in the mirror was a scared, intimidated girl with no confidence or positive self-image. If you ask me now, I will readily admit to you that yes, I once was that girl who looked in the mirror with doubt, fear, and negativity. But now, I see someone else staring back at me in the mirror. I see the young woman I have become, and the woman I have the potential to be. I see beauty, confidence, and strength. Why? Because I learned to change my perspective.
Each day, we look in the mirror and judge ourselves based on what we see. “We continually take in information and evaluate ourselves in multiple domains such as physical appearance (How do I look?), performance (How am I doing?), and relationships (How important am I?).” Said Cleveland Clinic in their article, “Fostering a Positive Self-Image.”
“With a positive self-image, we recognize and own our assets and potentials while being realistic about our liabilities and limitations. With a negative self-image, we focus on our faults and weaknesses, distorting failure and imperfections.”
Often times, we don’t see ourselves clearly because we get so caught up in “be this,” “do that,” “dress like this,” “be pretty like her,” “be the best,” “be perfect.” Young girls especially feel the strain of society telling them all the things they have to be to be “good enough.”
Because young women grow up in such a demanding culture, they feel the weight and pull of unrealistic expectations as to who they are supposed to be. This fosters insecurity, self-doubt, and negativity.
“Self-image is important because how we think about ourselves affects how we feel about ourselves and how we interact with others and the world around us.”
Because the way we see ourselves in the mirror greatly impacts how we feel, the way we live our lives, and the way we act towards with others, we need to learn to develop a positive self-image. By understanding that perfection is an unrealistic standard for anyone to live up to, we allow ourselves the freedom to be happy with the woman we see in the mirror. We shouldn’t judge beauty, value, and self-worth by the physical image we see in our mirror.
So drop your measuring tape, throw away your scales, and shatter your old reflections. The woman you are today is worth so much more than the value any of those objects can show you.
Wake up each day and make the decision to cultivate a positive self-image so that you can grow to be a strong, confident woman who sees the beauty that lies within her, despite the voices of others telling her differently.
We all need to learn to see our true reflections past the impossible standards set by society and the negative perspectives we develop from failure to meet those standards.
Once we look in the mirror and see beauty as who we are, not what we look like, we can spark a fire to empower women around the world to see themselves differently. To see the real view of themselves when they look into the mirror.