Word of the Week: Gossip

According to Dictionary.com, gossip is defined as idle talk especially about the  affairs of others.

Let’s break this definition down, starting with idle talk. The adjective idle means of no real worth or importance. Next we look at the word affair, which means a private or personal concern.

Now that we all understand what gossip is, let’s take a step back and look at it. Most women have an issue with gossiping. In fact this study from 2011, says that women spend at least five hours every day gossiping. Yes, these numbers are harsh, but evaluate your conversations that you have.

Gossip ruins relationships. Unfortunately, there have been several times that I have not controlled my mouth and lost a friend because of it.

Gossip destroys self-image. Whether you are the person gossiping or the focus of the gossip, it fills you with disgust. Hateful words are like a stain that is difficult to clean out. You have to scrub it out, wash it off, and repeat until it is all gone.

God warns us about our tongues. Our words are the most powerful tool we have. We can use it to lift others up or tear them down.

“Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.”

Ephesians 4:29

As Christians, we should remember that we are all God’s children. Every person no matter their actions, appearance, or personality are a creation of God. When you gossip about the Lord’s creation, you are telling the Creator of the Universe that His work is not good and unworthy.

We can stop the problem. Once you stand up for someone, others will begin to do the same for others. Not only will your relationships with your friends be stronger, but your group can be an example for others. A snowball effect will create an atmosphere of love and trust.

Another way to stop the gossip is to pray. Nothing is more powerful than God’s help.

“Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; Keep watch over the door of my lips.”

Psalm 141:3

My challenge for you this week is to be the catalyst of change. Stop the gossip. Do not just let the awful conversation and tearing down of others continue. You can be a positive driving force and a light to others

 

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